Searching…… reaching…… empty handed?


Over the course of the last 2 weeks, I have struggled for something to write about. Sure, I have many thoughts and ideas throughout my day but nothing that I truly want to write about that would reflect my true feelings, emotions and nature. I guess what I am looking for is something with “meat on its bones”. (Speaking of Meat – I love to cook for those of you who do not know). Unlike some of the great Authors here on WordPress, I find myself wanting to write and express myself but when I have a chance to sit down and write something, I draw a blank – so freaking frustrating!

So I have decided to set up camp and leave this up for the day, go about my normal routine and see what comes to mind – a few lines at a time. Sound Fun?? Well we shall see! (speaking of camp – I really need to finish my “to-do” list on my RV so that I can go camping).

First off – it’s not as easy as it sounds. I walk away to do something and my mind wanders back to this page – back to my un-thoughts, because as soon as I sit down, I lose it. I have so much in this life to be thankful for, so much love, happiness and blessings that I can write about, I just can’t bring them to the forefront. I am starting to get a bit worried about this actually – does this mean that I am coming down with depression, has my life gotten so mundane and routine? I am going to force myself to find inspiration. Not that I need inspiration to live my life….. (speaking of inspiration, do you know that God loves you?).

Eureka – I have found my inspiration. A worthy cause to invest my time and energy in. I have the greatest idea of all times. At least for this minute……. So now I must bid this post adieu and say  – Empty Handed? – I think not!

Don’t give up! Keep the positive flowing – fight the good fight – and keep writing!sword




A new post in response to today’s one-word prompt. 05/05/2017

Today the topic for the one word prompt is Lifestyle. I don’t usually chime in on these by writing but today I felt that the stars lined up just right and I had an inspiration.

Today marks the 4th week of my full-time Thrive Journey. For those of you who are not aware of what Thrive or Le-Vel is, let me just say this. It is an “all Natural, Plant Based Pure Clean Energy supplement” and whole nutrition that your body desperately needs! Plain and simple.

No this is not a plug for Le-Vel or Thrive but these products along with my decision to slightly modify my eating habits and carb intake has resulted in a marked weight reduction by 30 pounds in 6 weeks. So to say the least – this is my official notice to myself of my Lifestyle change.

All my life I have struggled with my weight. (One of the many traits inherited from my Mothers’ side of the family), I have always joked that “I came into this world Fat, Dumb and Happy and that’s the way I’m going out” but I am starting to have second thoughts on that. Not saying that I don’t carry my weight well but I am not sloppy looking either. Looking back at my life as a whole, there has always been so much that I have missed out on because I had always been very self-conscious about my weight and never wanted to put myself out there in such a position where it would be noticed more than what it already was. Only fluffy heavier people know what I am talking about – lol The Struggle is real!!!

So over the past few weeks, I have noticed my energy level skyrocket, which in turn makes me more active, (I could always talk myself out of doing something for one reason or another). I found myself making healthier choices and my focus was intense. I actually have a sharper, clearer minded view of my life and what I want to accomplish. My family has also noticed a significant change in my physical and emotional appearance. I have never been one to weigh myself and I don’t think I want to start either. But I will say that I have noticed that my clothes are not fitting anymore. I have gone down in sizes and have had to start wearing a belt all the time now. So my Lifestyle has changed and I really feel good about where it is headed. Looking forward to many more days of these little changes that make up the big picture.

A New Experience……




So I have to start this post by saying it takes a lot to impress me. After all I have seen and done in my life – I know failure and disappointment but I also know success and achievement.

Back in October of last year, I was introduced to a product line of Supplements by a great friend of mine Kristen from all the way over in Pennsylvania. Her and her Husband had been involved with this product for a few years and they truly believe in these products.  So as with any new product that has potential I was skeptical. I had asked all of the usual suspect questions of Who, What, Where, When, Why and How and I got all of my questions answered but they added this….. What have you got to lose? Here, I have a sample for you at no cost – try it and let me know what you think. That’s It! That’s all I got – No pressure, no sales pitches, just honest opinions on what it had done for them.

Now comes my turn – What I did was take a capsule, drink a protein shake for breakfast and I put on a patch – that’s it. My energy level went up and I had no hunger issues most of the day until that evening. By the end of the day, I looked back and realized actually how much I had gotten done throughout my day. I didn’t get a buzz nor did I feel like I was jumping out of my skin with energy but I felt energized and just overall felt really good. Over the course of that time as each day went on. I felt incredible – energized and focused. I actually had some mental clarity and I was truly focused. I did not need to take naps or even get sleepy throughout the day. When nighttime came, I really didn’t want to go to bed but I knew I needed some sleep so I went to bed about 11pm. I woke up the next morning at 6am with energy and I felt very well rested – something that I had not felt in a long time.

WellbeingOk, so I had a couple of good days, that’s not uncommon I thought and said let me continue this and see how it goes. As it turns out, it went great. I had full-time energy, I was able to maintain my appetite and my legs were not as swollen and tired feeling. Now, most people who know me know that I have bad knees and ankles, (all my years running after the Bad Guys I guess)

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but I have been taking high level pain medications and anti-inflammatories for quite some time now – years  in fact. I have been going to Pain Management to help with the pain and I am scheduled to have double knee replacement in the near future.

As indicated by their websiteThis product starts with three (3) simple steps to start your day:

First there is the Capsules – formulated for everybody – it is a premium grade formula of Vitamins, Minerals, Plant Extracts, Anti-oxidants, Enzymes, probiotics, and Amino Acids. It helps you with weight management, cognitive performance, and supports healthy joint function. It also calms general discomfort, and provides antioxidant support, lean muscle support, digestive & immune support.

Next is the meal replacement shake – This mix was perfectly designed to complement the Capsules and the Patch. The blend of Vitamins, Minerals, Plant Extracts, Anti-oxidants, Enzymes, Probiotics, and Amino Acids is the first and only Ultra-Premium Mix ever developed. This helps you to develop lean muscle support, weight management and acts as a meal replacement plus they are also Gluten Free (I tried one shake in the morning and one for lunch. Then I had a regular dinner meal).

Finally, there is the Patch. It is a technology driven breakthrough in Health, Wellness, and Weight Management. This type of delivery system is the first of its kind and was designed to infuse the skin with their unique, premium grade formula different from the Capsules or the Shake. Taken in conjunction the Patch promotes clean and healthy weight management and an overall healthy lifestyle. People following this plan will experience premium results, unrivaled in regards to Weight Management, Health, Wellness, and Fitness. This Patch helps you with weight management, mental acuity, and supports appetite management and it also supports energy & circulation and increased bioavailability.

That’s all you have to do each and every day – One capsule in the morning, followed by your morning shake and put your patch on – trust me, it’s that easy.

I have given it the true honest test and I have to say that I am truly impressed. So much so that I have become a promoter and really believe in the benefits of these products. It’s all natural and healthy for you too. It’s not a weight loss miracle, nor is it a cure or medicine for any ailments or diseases. It is simply all natural healthy ingredients that your body and mind needs on a daily basis which causes everything to work at a peak Performance.


I have all of the information that you need for these products so you won’t have to rely solely on my thoughts and opinions. I can direct you to Facebook, YouTube and the company website where you can find everything that you want to know about these great products. Plus I will encourage you to talk to other people who have tried these products and get their opinions for yourself. You will not be disappointed.

I wrote this article to share and explain my Experience – my individual results – and my personal feelings. Now I have written all of that to say this – What have you got to lose? Just try the product and give it your honest opinion and see for yourself what it can do for you. If you are interested – I can help you get started.

Oh and by the way over the past 6 weeks, I have lost a total of 26 pounds.


Update on Mom…..

Update on Mom…….


As you may have read, my Mom has recently been diagnosed with Colon Cancer. In this last week, she has just undergone a Goiter Surgery on her neck. Now again, my Mother is 72 years old so you can imagine how worried we were about her and the surgery. Not the procedure itself, but the anesthesia and recovery part. I have to say that the Nurses and Doctors at Rex Hospital in Raleigh were great. The Anesthesiologist was awesome and even explained that they were going to do an arterial main line in order to monitor her level of consciousness more closely during the procedure. On the day of the procedure, we met with the Doctor and several of the nurses who explained everything in detail and then asked if we had any questions and they actually gave us time to ask them. Wow – we are not used to that level of care and service around here.

So, the procedure took just a little bit longer than expected mainly due to the amount of time required in recovery. I guess she had one of the best sleeps that she has had in a long time. Either way, the surgery was a success and she is now back at home recovering. We are waiting on pathology to let us know for sure if there was anything that the doctor had missed in his diagnosis and to make sure that there is no cancer involved with the Goiter – fingers crossed and praying.


Now onto the Colon Cancer part – Mom had a full CT Scan done of her chest and stomach area and they indicated that they did not see anything unusual in the scan. All of her blood work came back just fine so they are pretty confident that they have caught this thing early enough to prevent it from becoming something more terrible and devastating. With that news, they have given Mom a surgery date of May 3rd to go in and remove about a foot or so of her colon.It seems that there were 3 polyps in her colon – two on the ascending and one in the transverse. The Doctor explained that they had to remove a section below and a section above the Polyps to potentially get all of the cancer out. Now this means they have to take out the entire Ascending and about half of the Transverse sections of the colon.

It’s a pretty big surgery and we are on high alert as to her wellbeing. As before, we are not so much worried about the procedure itself because Mom is and has always been one tough lady but this is a 4 to 5 hour surgery and the risks are much greater due to the fact that she has COPD from previous years of smoking. (Mom hasn’t smoked for over 20 years now).  I guess it really hit home at the severity of this when Mom asked me to fill out her Advance Directive and appoint me and my Sister Brenda as her Care Providers in her Healthcare Power of Attorney.

So now it’s just a waiting game – that and putting all of our trust and faith in God that she will come out of this in good health – keep her in your prayers if you feel inclined as all prayers and good thoughts are coveted as blessings.


The Negligence of “13 Reasons Why”

Too important not to Reblog! Please read this article and consider the effects that this TV Series has on our youth.


“13 Reasons Why.”

The Selena Gomez – produced Netflix show that remade the YA fiction novel by the same name.

The topic? Teenage Suicide.

The “13 Reasons” refer to the 13 cassette tapes the victim, Hannah, left behind, explaining why each of the 13 people on the tapes were to blame in why she took her own life.

I didn’t want to watch it. Clearly, this is not a light subject matter, and not particularly something I wanted to watch alone in my studio apartment in New York. But given my affinity for Justin Bieber, and as a result, his first love, Selena Gomez, I wanted to see what she produced.

And well, after watching all 13 episodes in less than 48 hours, I have some thoughts. Strong ones.

Suicide is never the answer. It should never even be an option. Let’s get that right out of the way from the…

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Grateful for my Readers…

Grateful for my Readers…..


I just wanted to say Good Day to you all and Thank You so very much for those of you that have stopped by and read my posts and articles. I started this Blog back in November of last year to give me an outlet and try my hand at writing my thoughts and experiences in my rural community. I have to say that I have really enjoyed expressing my life through this method and I hope that you come away from here with just a little better understanding of my life here in Rural North Carolina.

I know (from my standpoint at least) that this blog may seem small and trivial but, to me, it is a great accomplishment just putting myself out there for anyone to see. I have read so many blog pages and articles that, quite simply, put mine to shame but there again, I am just getting started and I have a new passion – there are times that I get up and I just can’t wait to begin writing. I have quite a few articles that I have started and put aside for later development and I look forward to publishing them in the near future.

Thanks again for all of your words of encouragement and remember, please know that any and all critique, feedback, tips, assessments, observations and commentary are welcomed and will be put to good use.

Have a blessed day

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The opposite of Love is………….

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The opposite of Love is………….

Most recently I was devastated to learn about a situation that had happened to a very close friend of mine dealing with his marriage. For the sake of anonymity, I will call him Ryan. Now Ryan was like most guys I know, he was very heartfelt and always tried to please everyone most of the time – especially his wife.


But seriously, most guys are the same with the difference being home training and life experiences. During their separate lives they have had to overcome many obstacles including previous marriages and as most of you know, this in itself will change a person – for better or worse – it does change you. There have been challenges in their marriage yes but from what most could tell, they have been fairly routine things that most couples encounter during their time together. The main issues that I have seen over the years with people most often deal with Money and Finances. Each person wants to feel independent in their personality but in reality, they are joined as one, therefore they must function as one. It’s a hard concept to grasp but if you get it right, it is so worth it – One completes the Other.

Recently I was told by Ryan that he and his wife were going through a rough patch in where they just seemed to be co-existing together and not really connected anymore. Ryan said that life had wiggled its way in between them and they had begun to be at odds with each other. During one evening, they had gotten into a very heated argument which led to some pretty harsh words, said by both parties, when all of a sudden his wife spews out “I F*@king Hate You”. Well apparently that seemed to have immediately stopped the whole argument and from what it seems, the whole conversation. Ryan said he just froze in his tracks while his wife simply walked away. Ryan said that this was something that he never thought he would hear from her. During their time together, she had never said evil or hurtful things to him in such a manner nor was it customary between them to carry a grudge or harbor ill feelings for any length of time beyond the scope of a normal argument – but this was no ordinary argument. This was something much worse.

Being truly devastated by her words, Ryan felt that his marriage was over and that she did not love him anymore. He wondered how he could have let it get so bad in the first place and where was he going to go from here. In doing some research (because I did not have an answer to help him), I found that in the normal comparison of emotions, LOVE is the opposite of HATE as most would think. But if you actually mean opposite (the most reversed factors possible) then I would have to say it was indifference. In both love and hate, you care about whoever or whatever you are loving or hating at the time (although in different ways). Ex. You love a person. You hear that something awful happened to them. You’d want to know more, right? If you hated that person (and I mean actually HATE, not just dislike), you’d also want to know more about what happened to them. Additionally, love relationships break apart because of indifference much more often than hate. (“You don’t care about me at all!”) If you actually hated somebody, you wouldn’t be together with them. Hate is the opposite of love. Hate is a feeling of anger, rage and violence. I read that Hate comes along with love. Actually, without hate there is no love. They are two sides of the same coin.

            What is the opposite of Hate? – The answer is not Love?  Regardless of what a thesaurus might say, the true opposite of Love is – Indifference, which is the direct opposite of caring or feeling for someone or something. Hate cannot be the opposite of Love because like love, hate means that you care and have strong feelings towards another. Whether the feelings are positive or negative is subjective and arguably superficial. I realize that there has been so much back and forth on the whole love / hate thing – indifference, selflessness, apathy, intolerance and fear. The best article that I had found on this topic was at in an article entitled “Hate is NOT the Opposite of Love”.

So – I will add this to finish my article. Whether Love is Hate or Hate is Love – either way it is real and it is something that must be dealt with very quickly before it is able to spread like a wildfire causing unrepairable damage to the very foundation. Say what you will about this but if we would talk to God and ask him for guidance in our personal affairs, there would not be so much unresolved circumstances in this world because when He speaks – Peace, Be Still – all will cease and there will be a great calm.

My heart goes out to all those couples affected by this type of the Devils’ Treachery and my sincere hope is that you find peace soon and resolve your indifference. May God Bless each and every one of you.