Food for thought … and the people in our lives.

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Life Shouldn’t Be A Brick Wall……..

Food For Thought…. and the people in our lives.

Being brutally honest — Change sucks – especially at times when it comes to the people in our lives.  Just when you feel comfortable, safe and secure in your “atmosphere”, out of the blue it happens. You don’t even see it coming – poof – change – Some good, some bad but almost always totally unexpected. You’re not ready for what’s to come, it probably hadn’t even crossed your mind but you are totally blindsided and it sends you reeling in the opposite direction. Nothing is ever guaranteed in our life, except death.

It is inevitable – people come and go, in and out of our lives constantly. Most people you can count on to stick around for longer periods of time but there are several throughout our lifetime that just seem to disappear into the darkness. For whatever reason, be it life, love or circumstance. It happens, they don’t mean to cause hurt or hard feelings and in reality, most of the time, they do not even realize what has happened until it just hits them one day – “whatever happened to so and so” and then fades back into the memories of our mind.

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People come into our lives showering us with their presence, a new common bond or thread, a new feeling or experience. Some of these people last for years and years and in actuality by the time you reach your golden years, you can count on one hand how many true friends that you have had throughout the years. Sad – I know but true. People call us their friends and even at times they truly mean it but as time goes on, their friendship fades and diminishes over time.

Human nature dictates our future it seems and unless we have a firm grip on our convictions, we lose ourselves along the way. I have been family, I have been a friend, an enemy, a lover, a son, a brother, a husband, a Dad , laughing-smiley-face-emoticon-RcA6KpMRi but through it all I have been me. I have been real, I have been fake, I have loved and I have been loved. Just like the rest of us here on this great big rock that we live on. We all acclimate to our surrounding in some form or fashion and try to fit in the best that we can. We must always remember – that we are all human; we make mistakes and bad choices. We try to learn from the negative and correct it and strive to make us a better people.

Sometimes in a relationship, people leave us or choose to be with others instead and that most oftentimes hurts – a lot. Others – well not so much. The cause varies and people move away, they find other friends or choose activities that do not resonate with you and they move on. They get busy, they get different jobs, they develop other interests and sometimes relationships grow apart at times. People pull away for one reason or another. Sometimes you understand it and sometimes it remains a mystery. And then there are some times, distance, choices or some other situation simply ends a friendship. Cuts it right on the dotted line and removes it all together.

Whatever the reason, life does move on – new people and new friends will come along with some new and unexpected experiences. Sometimes it’s not them that outgrow you but you that outgrow them. Life has a way of teaching us and exposing us to other interests throughout each season and some of these things we tend to gravitate toward instead of away from and with that come even more people who share the same interests and objectives. Life ebbs and flows constantly just like the sea and with each new “tide” bring new treasures, new experiences and new memories. Life – Live it, Love it, and then leave it for others to enjoy.

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I would like to try and live my life so that people would remember me not for all the mistakes that I made along the way but for all the good that I tried to do – Funny how life gets in the way of that. I have always been the type of person who looks for the good in people, for that silver lining. I almost always find the bad but there is still a lot of good in this world. And in this world, it’s just me and you. It is up to us to look past the hurt, the color, the negative and see the real person, see the real situation and try to make the best out of this real situation. We all need to quit making more out of certain conditions and finally become “the human race”. We all need to find that common bond that unites us all as children of God and stop all of this backstabbing, undermining and negative things in our lives – The circumstances that we have created and somehow choose to be in.

After having grown up a bit (it only took me about 30 years) I want people to know that they can count on me and even want to be around me. I want to show people that there is love in this world. I would like to always show people my best side and be there for them at all times whenever I can. I have many regrets from my youth for the way that I have treated people in my life and there have been times in my life where I wasn’t such a great person. I have never claimed to be perfect and I am sure that my actions may have even driven people away from me. Life’s experiences have taught me many things and I can finally be truthful with myself. You see – that is the key to true happiness. If nothing else – just be honest and true to yourself first, and you will quickly see just how life is not so bad after all. Just as a Junkie or an alcoholic, you must first admit your shortcomings, your mistakes and your bad choices. Then you must make a conscience effort to avoid making those same mistakes and try living your life a little more positive. One step at a time is all it takes and consistency is the key.

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Almost Famous Quotes …..

Almost Famous Quotes:

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I went searching the other day and found some very interesting and almost Famous Quotes to live by and, as life would have it – they still ring true today.  Whether you call it Food for Thought, Famous Quotes, Wisdom of the Wise or some other adjective – you will be sure to take away something just for you and your life.

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Provide for yourself first and then share what you have.

Not on our soil, Not on our lands, Not in our homes and Not to our families!

I’m not saying don’t give refuge, but I am saying that you have to take care of yourself first before you can take care of anybody else!

Don’t let someone else’s opinion of you become your reality

If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.

Life is not measured by the amount of breaths you take, but by the moments that take your breath away

NOBODY can hurt ME without MY Permission!!!

Sometimes by losing a battle you find a new way to win the war.

Attitude is a little thing that makes a Big Difference!

As you think – so shall you become!

Don’t waste time because time is what Life is made of……

The Stiffest Tree is easily cracked but the Bamboo survives by bending with the wind!

Learn to Hold instead of to be held.

When your Mom asks “Do I look stupid” – it’s best not to answer!

When you complain about doing the dishes – you usually get stuck doing them more often!

It’s funny how God uses simple people to do great things!

When people say that Life is Hard – I always want to ask – Compared to what??

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It’s never too late to say you’re sorry!

IF you want to change the World – Start in your own Backyard! – Tug

You’ll always get a Zit on important days.

You never know how loud you are until you have to be quiet

Being a good friend is like peeing on yourself – everyone can see it but only you get the warm feeling it brings!

Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit – Wisdom is not putting it into a fruit salad!

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Going to Church doesn’t make you a Christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car!

One match can start a forest fire, but it takes a whole box of matches to start a campfire.

 

And finally for my Wife – IF I could choose between loving you and breathing,  I would use my last breath to say I LOVE YOU

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No Charge…….

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No Charge …….

Originally penned in 1974 by Harlan Howard and recorded by Melba Montgomery, for me, “No Charge” was really made famous by Gospel Singer Shirley Caesar in 1975. Keep in mind that I was born in 1968 so I was 7 when she recorded it – it wasn’t until the year 2000 when it truly hit home for me. My Mother had some issues that she was forced to deal with and in an attempt to maintain my faith, I began listening to more Gospel, worship and praise songs and music.  That’s when I discovered that wonderful song and gifted singer.

I have always loved what is typically known as Southern Black Gospel.  Songs and Hymns that, for the most part were performed by the African American Culture in the South. Jubilee songs and sorrow songs were two types of spirituals that emerged during the 18th and 19th centuries and were adapted throughout the decades. This type of Gospel has always grabbed my heart and made me feel closer and stronger to my faith than any other music. Now please don’t get me wrong, I truly love Bluegrass Gospel just as much but there is something about the Black Southern Gospel.

Now for those of you, who have never heard the song “No Charge”, please let me give you a synopsis of what it is about:

A young boy hands his mother an itemized list of charges he says he’s owed for performing various chores and comes to collect. The mother responds by reminding her son about all the things she’s done for him, that she never asked him to pay for services rendered and that, all things considered, “the cost of real love is no charge.” Enlightened, the young boy realizes that his mother is right and changes the amount due to “paid in full”. “No Charge” was one of the few songs that talked about motherhood during this time of the Christian movement, which might be one of the reasons why it was so popular.

As a young boy, I was very tender hearted and Mom used to always say that I got my heart from her. Mom is now 72 years old and to this day – my Mother and I often refer back to this song to remind us just what our love has endured over the years. The love between a Mother and a Child is something very special and that it is often times taken for granted by so many. There are also so many people that, for whatever reason; are abandoned physically or emotionally by their parents and loved ones and who have not experienced this blessing. I am very thankful for my Mother and I thank God every day for what I have.

If you have never heard this song before – I urge you to check it out. Like I said, I prefer Shirley Caesar’s rendition but any musician / Singer will surely do it justice.

Now go Hug your Mother – and tell her you Love her!

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EUREKA!!!!! I have found my Inspiration –

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Eureka!!! – I have found my inspiration – A worthy cause to invest my time and energy in.

As I sat here earlier forcing myself to think of something to write about, when I received a phone call from my “Significant Other” (I stopped calling her my Wife and decided to call her anything else but that. A Wife holds too much responsibility and represents the Un-fun mundane responsibilities of being an Adult so I call her my Girlfriend, My Lover, My Soulmate, My Best Friend, My Significant Other, etc.).  (I guess that needs to be for a later post).

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Anyway, back to the phone call – We started discussing finances, and how much it was going to cost to enroll our Daughter back in Travel Volleyball this season (I guess my Wife did call after all – LOL).  We spoke about whether or not Sandy would be coaching again this year or would she want to hand that off to someone else.  We discussed the long distance travel back and forth to other areas to compete, train and practice. We went over the logistics, finances, time and energy that would need to be spent to achieve all of this – then it hit me.

Instead of going to another county and joining their Volleyball Team, why don’t we just start our own Volleyball League here in Warren County! Surely there will be enough support from the Youth. After all, they have only had 2 years of County Rec. Volleyball established here and there have been good turnouts for those despite the fact that most Rec. Leagues are just beginner stages anyways. It would give them something to aspire to and put forth some real effort and talent in. Heck, I can even get some sponsors to help put in a double Volleyball Court at the Rec. Center – shouldn’t be an issue!!!  I thought.

Sure the cost would still be there but isn’t this what we have been talking about for so long – our family credo – “If you want to change the world – start in your own back yard”!  I told Sandy what I wanted to do and she did the Wifely thing and said – “No – you would not get the support from the families in this rural area for such a costly undertaking”.  We happen to live in one of the poorest counties in North Carolina by the way. I understand all of this but our children in this county deserve something fun and worth while to invest their time in and the Parents (at least the ones who are involved with what their children are doing) will support their dreams and ambitions – Just my opinion.

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So off I go …………………

Step one – send out “feelers” for those who would be interested in creating and joining a Travel Volleyball Club.

Step two – Get the Sponsors and the Funding for the Equipment.

Step three – Duuuhhhhhhhh…………………………….

Ok so maybe I should give this some more thought and come up with a really good plan of action. Hey – wait – organize a “Call to Action”! I need more people involved – I need more thoughts on this and I need my “Wife” to help guide me  J  Hmmmmm     (Oh how she is going to love this………..). I will let you know how that turns out later  LOL.

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