The New Bed

The New Bed

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Ever since I got out of Law Enforcement in 2005, I have made it my goal to always be there for my children and I can brag a bit and say that I have accomplished just that. Every time they want or need, I am there for them. I am involved in their lives on a daily basis and I wouldn’t want it any other way. At the end of the day, I don’t have to ask myself, “I wonder what my kids have been up to”. I have long said that, “If you want to know what your kids are doing, get involved”. After all, it is YOUR job to raise them – not someone else’s. They cannot be left to figure life out on their own without some sort of guidance.

When I was in Law Enforcement, I worked a lot and was gone most of the time and I missed my oldest son growing up.  I know – I know, my fault and my choice, not someone else’s! I was young and life was all about me at the time. I missed ball games, school functions, family dinners, yeah I was a real looser as a parent and a husband – But I was great at my Job. I think that was the only thing that I took seriously back then. Late nights, Badge Bunnies, loneliness and a desire to feel more and more love and companionship overwhelmed me and after 15 years of working, being gone and fighting with my wife, we divorced soon thereafter and parted ways – What I didn’t expect was to lose my son in the process. I made this bed and now I had to lay in it.

I remarried shortly after when I found my Sandy – Sandy was just what I needed to teach me what life, love and family was all about. She had me – hook, line and sinker from the get-go and it seemed as if I had no control as to how far and how fast our relationship progressed. We were destined to be together and nothing was going to stop us. We even tried calling it off a couple of times in the beginning but that never worked out. We just couldn’t walk away from each other and our love seemed to be on fire from the very start. From the very start – I knew I wanted that kind of life and I knew that I had a lot of repairing and changing to do within myself – and my son. Then we had Ivy and my life changed dramatically!

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To date for the past 14 years, I have been there – I have been to every one of my daughters Softball games and Volleyball games and even helped coach some. I pick her up from school, I ask her each day how her day was and I tell her that I love her more than 20 times a day it seems.  Now don’t get me wrong, I love my boys! I am just as involved with them and they know that I love them but there is something about that little girl and the way she says “I love you Daddy” that just makes me turn into Jell-O. She has me that’s for sure and she knows it too. Good, bad or indifferent, she has me and being the baby (just as I was), seems to get her a free pass on some things or at least more leniency. It drives my boys and my wife crazy. I know I spoil her but she doesn’t act like an “entitled little brat” either. She knows her limitations and just how far to push.

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So I have said all that to set the stage for my story – Yesterday, my 13 year old “little girl” – asked me to design and build her a new adult sized loft bed. You know the kind with a couch or seating area underneath.  Something a little more sophisticated for a growing young woman. WAIT – WHAT – MY Little Girl is Growing Up???  My heart kinda swelled and then broke a little at the same time. Of course I was honored when she asked me to build her a new loft bed and I have always been handy when it comes to working with wood, in fact, it is my hobby and I love to build things.

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So I spent the latter part of last night looking up loft bed plans and trying to design a suitable living/sleeping area for my daughter – something that would reflect the love that I have for her and the pleasure that I felt in being able to make her something that she would enjoy and be proud of. My mind is racing at the prospects and I am still looking for that perfect plan but I will be starting this project soon. I can’t wait to see the look on her face when I get it all set up. I think I am more excited than she is.

Update on Mom…..

Update on Mom…….

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As you may have read, my Mom has recently been diagnosed with Colon Cancer. In this last week, she has just undergone a Goiter Surgery on her neck. Now again, my Mother is 72 years old so you can imagine how worried we were about her and the surgery. Not the procedure itself, but the anesthesia and recovery part. I have to say that the Nurses and Doctors at Rex Hospital in Raleigh were great. The Anesthesiologist was awesome and even explained that they were going to do an arterial main line in order to monitor her level of consciousness more closely during the procedure. On the day of the procedure, we met with the Doctor and several of the nurses who explained everything in detail and then asked if we had any questions and they actually gave us time to ask them. Wow – we are not used to that level of care and service around here.

So, the procedure took just a little bit longer than expected mainly due to the amount of time required in recovery. I guess she had one of the best sleeps that she has had in a long time. Either way, the surgery was a success and she is now back at home recovering. We are waiting on pathology to let us know for sure if there was anything that the doctor had missed in his diagnosis and to make sure that there is no cancer involved with the Goiter – fingers crossed and praying.

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Now onto the Colon Cancer part – Mom had a full CT Scan done of her chest and stomach area and they indicated that they did not see anything unusual in the scan. All of her blood work came back just fine so they are pretty confident that they have caught this thing early enough to prevent it from becoming something more terrible and devastating. With that news, they have given Mom a surgery date of May 3rd to go in and remove about a foot or so of her colon.It seems that there were 3 polyps in her colon – two on the ascending and one in the transverse. The Doctor explained that they had to remove a section below and a section above the Polyps to potentially get all of the cancer out. Now this means they have to take out the entire Ascending and about half of the Transverse sections of the colon.

It’s a pretty big surgery and we are on high alert as to her wellbeing. As before, we are not so much worried about the procedure itself because Mom is and has always been one tough lady but this is a 4 to 5 hour surgery and the risks are much greater due to the fact that she has COPD from previous years of smoking. (Mom hasn’t smoked for over 20 years now).  I guess it really hit home at the severity of this when Mom asked me to fill out her Advance Directive and appoint me and my Sister Brenda as her Care Providers in her Healthcare Power of Attorney.

So now it’s just a waiting game – that and putting all of our trust and faith in God that she will come out of this in good health – keep her in your prayers if you feel inclined as all prayers and good thoughts are coveted as blessings.

Praying

Grateful for my Readers…

Grateful for my Readers…..

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I just wanted to say Good Day to you all and Thank You so very much for those of you that have stopped by and read my posts and articles. I started this Blog back in November of last year to give me an outlet and try my hand at writing my thoughts and experiences in my rural community. I have to say that I have really enjoyed expressing my life through this method and I hope that you come away from here with just a little better understanding of my life here in Rural North Carolina.

I know (from my standpoint at least) that this blog may seem small and trivial but, to me, it is a great accomplishment just putting myself out there for anyone to see. I have read so many blog pages and articles that, quite simply, put mine to shame but there again, I am just getting started and I have a new passion – there are times that I get up and I just can’t wait to begin writing. I have quite a few articles that I have started and put aside for later development and I look forward to publishing them in the near future.

Thanks again for all of your words of encouragement and remember, please know that any and all critique, feedback, tips, assessments, observations and commentary are welcomed and will be put to good use.

Have a blessed day

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